Dating Debacles

So for many years I have "chosen" to be single. I have decided that I should really find a way to meet different people. So I did as was suggested by many and put a profile on a dating site. I've been told that I am an intelligent, cute, young lady, so what should be the problem. I would say it is like finding a needle in a haystack, but I think that might be too high of odds. There have been two incidents that have made me question what happened to some of these people as children to make them the way they are.

The first one is the worst or at least the creepiest. This guy would email me and we decided to exchange phone numbers. Well, I don't know if I can explain his creepiness to its full extent. He would constantly ask me highly inappropriate questions and then get angry when I refused to answer them. This anger led him to call me a "pathetic, waste of air" and "I would end up marrying some loser who worked in a cubicle".  These comments are highly rude and would have had a greater effect on me if I cared what the whackadoo thought. He then proceeded to contact me the next day and acted like nothing was wrong. When I asked him why he was contacting me again, he said that "He was not like other guys" and didn't see anything wrong with what he had said. I am fairly positive that after I cut off contact with him, he created at a minimum of two more profiles on the site and tried to contact me using them. Luckily, the guy had a very distinct writing style and it wasn't hard to figure out it was him and I just blocked him.

The second guy, I'll call him Scuba Steve. I had high hopes for Scuba Steve. He was an intelligent, built, hottie. So pretty sure that after we got past the general formalities, it became abundantly clear that Scuba Steve was a little unbalanced. I understand as well as anyone else that finding your way can be somewhat of a scary journey. However, how needy and clingy can one person be. I had never even met the guy and he had list of activities that we were going to do together. We were going to go to church together, lists of movies that we needed to work together, birthday present ideas for his birthday, etc. All of it for someone who tends to approach relationships cautiously was scary and premature. There was the constant pushing to spend time together and the incessant whining about why should he do homework. He was above homework and thought it was buy work. Constantly commented that love is what life was about and what was the meaning of life. After a while, all I heard was blah, blah, blah. Just make a decision and stick with it. You don't have to like what you do, but you have to do some grunt work to get to the good work. He claimed to be over his exes, but I now know his exes by name and little anecdotes about them. When I tried to cut off contact, he became the definition of desperation. He asked me to tell him what he could do to make it better. He would do anything to make it ok. Have I mentioned that I had only been talking to the guy for 4 days?

So the needle still appears to be buried, maybe someday I will find it.